GOD FIRST

There are some things that I have been thinking about for the last week or so that I really need to get off my mind. This will probably offend some people, so sorry in advance, but thank you first amendment! And let me preface this with saying that I know that I have been guilty of this as well…

Why is everyone so caught up on relationships? Or at least it seems that way to me. I’m talking about dating/talking/gf-bf relationships (not friendships, family relationships etc).

As Christians, God ought to be the number one priority in our lives..in every situation. How often can you say this is true of your life? With that being said, how often do you put your stock in someone else, especially a relationship with the opposite sex? I feel like far too often, we as Christians, remove God from his rightful position and put in place of Him, a sinner. A sinner, who we hold to the standard of God, but could never meet the same expectation. So what happens when that person lets you down or you break up? Your life is shattered, naturally. Why? Well probably because you put someone in the place that is ONLY reserved for God

I only know this from experience. I made the mistake of dethroning God and placing an ex boyfriend, a sinner, in His spot. When the relationship ended, I literally didn’t know what to do with myself. In that moment, I felt like my whole world had ended and I’d never be okay. I had created an idol, put all my stock in him, just to be proven by God that the throne is ONLY His and no idol shall have His place (1^st Commandment! Duh, how did I miss that one?!)

Now this is going to sound harsh, blunt, and morbid…but I don’t really care. I remember sitting on my couch talking to my mom while I was so distraught. She says to me...”Andrea, you are going to have to be okay by yourself. God forbid something happen to whoever you marry, and he dies, you have to be okay by yourself. You have to put your faith, trust, love, everything about you in the ONLY person that can live up to every expectation you have and will never fail you…God.” I knew my mom was right and I still know to this day that no matter what happens to anyone in my life, I will always be okay because I serve an awesome God who fulfills every need I have. No person on Earth could ever do that for me.

Now there are some people I know that complain all the time about being single. Why? What’s the big deal? I think a lot of people have this misconception that if you are married, suddenly all of your problems go away. Granted, I have never been married, but I know that is not the case. One thing I also learned is that you HAVE to be content by yourself before you could ever be content in a marriage. You honestly have nothing to offer a person of the opposite sex if you cannot be alone first. Instead of focusing on the fact that you don’t have a bf/gf/spouse/etc, focus on how you can better yourself for the person you end up marrying (if it is in God’s will for you to marry).

And then there are the perpetual daters. The people who can’t be alone. They must have someone there all the time. Do you even know how much wisdom there is to gain from being single? Do you realize that you can focus solely on yourself and your relationship with God. You can work on the issues that are prevalent in your life. Instead, people jump from one person to the next person to the next person to the next person (you catch my drift yet?) leaving a trail of destruction along the way. It is foolish and immature to move from one person to the next. Why not take a step back, analyze what went wrong with the previous person, take time to grow in the Lord? Why is that so hard to do? It’s not. People don’t do it, because they are so co-dependent and refuse to let God sit in his rightful throne.

I know this all sounds like a long rant, which it may be, but let me just remind you all that I have been guilty of every single thing that I ranted about. I just wish people would put the focus where it ought to be: God. Leave the focus there. The rest will follow according to HIS will.

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