Commitment Issues

This has been weighing on my heart for a few months now, and I think it has finally reached a boiling point in my mind. For people who know me well, I am a girl who speaks my mind. There are times, however, when I don’t. After going to Discovery at my church this past weekend, our pastor spoke of the six different categories that characterize all individuals: harmonizers, persisters, energizers, dreamers, achievers, and catalyzers. What I found out, is that I am mostly the dreamer. I am constantly thinking things, but I can’t always put my millions of thoughts into coherent sentences. I usually don’t offer my opinion unless asked it, and it is easier for me to write down what I’m thinking rather than speak it. So here I am, months later, finally “speaking” about something that has been bothering me for quite some time…

I cannot seem to find the reason why on earth my generation is SO non-committal. It is beyond ridiculous. Everything I am going to say, I have been guilty of, which is probably why it bothers me so much. We are non-committal in the smallest senses, but also in bigger areas. What I have noticed is that if someone asks another person to, say, go to the movies, that person will say “maybe” or “we’ll see” or “possibly.” The person will not give a yes or no answer. Why? Because they want to see if some better plan will come along before that time. Then there’s the people who can’t commit to a relationship. The reasoning is the same: they are too scared to commit because they wonder what else is out there. Why? Why not commit to someone who you enjoy spending time with and is right in front of you? Again, I’ve been there, so I know how ridiculous it is.

Basically, I just wish that my generation would “man-up” and commit to something. Make plans with someone, and stick to them, no matter if “something better” comes up. Commit to someone you've been "talking to" or "hanging out with" if you genuienly enjoy spending time with them, or else stop wasting their time. Choose to be committal. It is not a feeling, it is a choice.